Tuesday 21 October 2008

Season of Change

It snowed today. After such a warm October, I find this reassuring. The leaves in the picture above now pad our walks, and the air has changed from that sun-warming-leaf-pile smell to that air with the edge to it, just a little too bracing for the unready under an overcast sky.

There have been other changes here, too. Other additions; and no, I have not been nourishing a secret pregnancy :-) A friend of Safiya's comes over after her school to hang out most days in the week, an arrangement with many benefits for all involved. I like a house with extra people, and my friend needed help, so things fell into place and now there's another personality thrown into the mix with some regularity around here, as well as some regular income on my part.

So now there are two cups of hot chocolate in the wagon in the afternoon. They are both only children, and it's been very interesting to watch them hash things out. At first there were territorial disputes to be presided over ;-)

However, I'm a "smoother-over-er" by instinct, which is not always a good thing; I get in the way. Frankly now it seems best if I step back and keep an eye just with my ears. The lovely thing is to hear them pretending and making up stories and talking about their respective imaginary friends, and giggling at eachother's silliness.

This wanting everything to be smooth for her is a desperate longing that I think all parents have, but in reality Safiya blossoms in her own decisions, her own fights, her own muddiness.

It's hard, but it's easier to remember when I think of how much fun mud is :-)


Amy said...

It can be difficult and gratifying to let them work it out for themselves. It's hard to let go though isn't it.

Snow? Wow. I'm not quite ready for that yet although I have been longing for cooler weather - it's only been sock weather here for a matter of days!

Anonymous said...

this is such a delicious discovery.

Unknown said...

I too have a hard time just letting my kids hash things out on there own. My instinct is to settle it for them.

Unknown said...

Katya misses Safiya. I showed her your blog, and read this post to her, and showed her the pictures of the two of them.